Shalom and  peace. I again invite you to learn about how the Talmud of Judaism teaches us to  live.
 '' If you have done much good to someone,  consider it as you have done very little. If someone has done you a bit of good,  consider it as if he has done you much good. If you have done any wrong to  someone, even a little bit, consider it as if it is much wrong.  If others have done much wrong to you,  consider it as nothing.'' (Derek Eretz 3:9)
My rabbinic  teacher asked: "Would you rather be happy or would you rather be right?''  He was not talking about major  situations when ''we cannot stand idly by while our fellows' blood is being  shed.'' He was discussing the daily interactions that we have with our fellows,  including coworkers, family, et.al.
Our sages nor  God wish us treated as door mats.  But neither are we to be full of angst  and peccadilloes. 
'' If you  have done much good to someone, consider it as you have done very  little.''
Why are we  here on earth? From a Jewish spiritual point of view, we are here to be of  maximum service to God and our fellows. When doing good for someone, or some  institution, even if it is 'much' good, we have to consider it as if we have  done little. Further, everything we have is not just a gift from God, but a  loan.
''If someone  has done you a bit of good, consider it as if he has done you much good.'' Think  of all of the little things that are done for us each day with the same  gratitude we would give for the occasional big thing done for  us.
We realize  all the things we take for granted that other humans do for us, and that God  does for us.  When we do not  acknowledge such wonders we become ingrates. Instead of seeing a flat tire as an  inconvenience, one thing wrong out of 999 things that went right, we awfulize  it, and loose our shalom. 
 ''If you have done any wrong to someone,  even a little bit, consider it as if it is much wrong.'' It is very easy to hurt  another's feelings. Even doing acts with good intentions can bring harm.  Be kind and make  amends.
 ''If others have done to you much wrong,  consider it in your eyes as nothing.''   This isn't easy. It goes against our  so-called human nature.  Our job  spiritually is to grow from Homo Sapien, with this 'human nature,' to Homo  Spiritus.  We check our  egos.
We let childlike mean behaviors flow off our backs. Because we are trying to live a spiritual life doesn't mean everyone will treat us respectfully. Because one is a vegetarian doesn't mean the bull won't charge. We shed our Velcro skins and grow skins of Teflon. Our lives go smoother. We live in freedom, with happiness and joyousness each day.
Rabbi Arthur  Segal is an international lecturer, author, and teacher. Visit him at www.JewishSpiritualRenewal.org .   Follow him on FaceBook at 'Arthur  L Segal', on Twitter at RabbiASegal, or his blog at  http://rabbiarthursegal.blogspot.com   .  Email at RabbiSegal@JewishSpiritualRenewal.net  
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